Today while I was out on my beach run I saw something that caught my attention. It was like I put on the brakes and everything around me stopped. This thing I saw was this amazingly beautiful rock creation. Each rock was expertly placed on top of the other. As I got up really close to examine this work of art I was struck by the fact that neither glue nor tape were used to hold the rocks in place. Each rock was carefully resting on the one underneath it. If one of the rocks was to fall the rest would as well. People were probably looking at me like I was crazy as I sat there and just stared at this human made rock formation.
These rocks represent what I like to think of as balance. If one of the rocks was missing there is a good chance that the creation would not stand tall and would likely fall to the ground. As you all know balance is what I am all about. I do not go so far right or left on any subject. Mike and I have always loved to play hard but take care of ourselves inside and out while doing so. I truly believe how you live your life should not be dictated by anyone but you. I do not think there is just one way to live your life. I can tell you from personal experience that I have tried other ways and they did not create harmony in my life. Living an unbalanced life created a feeling of frustration, disappointment and honestly it felt like I was swimming up stream each day.
According to Merriam Webster balance is defined as:
1) the state of having your weight spread equally so that you do not fall
2)the ability to move or to remain in a position without losing control or falling
3) a state in which different things occur in equal or proper amounts or have an equal or proper amount of importance
I love #1 & #3 the most. In #1 if you replace the word weight with the word activities you can pretty much sum up how I feel about balance. I remember the days when my life was all about work. I am going to date myself here but I can clearly remember a time when I wore a pager 24/7. I owned my own staffing business and was on call every second of every minute of the day. At the time I did not see it as stressful but I’ll tell you what… looking back, it was a time of my life when I was the unhealthiest and largest I have ever been. I did not take time to eat properly, I never took time to do things I enjoyed and I never mentally turned things off in my mind. It was at this time of my life that I developed an autoimmune disorder. Coincidence? I don’t think so. Of course I cannot be sure but I really truly believe that the life style I was living contributed to my weight problem and autoimmune condition. Sure I was making great money but I had no time to spend it. My activities were not spread out equally, I was all about work and that is all.
The reason I like #3 is because it represents my life today. Today I work hard at making sure I have equal portions of the things that are important to me. I recently made a job change because I felt that my balance was getting out of sync. I loved my job but my long commute was not allowing me to have time for the other things that I valued in my life. I could feel myself struggling inside and I never wanted to go back to that out of sync place again. Now I have the opportunity to work from home, do a job that truly gives me satisfaction, and have time to do the other things that make me feel happy and content.
I feel the need to stress one thing. If you really want balance in your life you need to start with thinking you deserve it. Do not look for excuses, look for solutions. Give up the things that really do not provide you with deep satisfaction. Where there’s a will there’s a way. Today sit back and decide this is a priority. Your health, your friends, your family and most of all the person in the mirror will thank you.
Achieving balance in my life has not been easy and it is never 100% perfect. Things come up and life throwes me curves all the time. The one thing that doesn’t change is my desire to make sure that I am always working towards it.